Recently, I was particularly surprised when an ExecuMate empty nester mentioned that her executive expressed disappointment that dinners weren’t regularly prepared. Now, having gone through the family journey myself, I understand that it’s important to gather family at the same table, at the same time, and regularly during the week, when possible. That’s another blog post. However, as an empty nester myself, I took pause with this one.
Truthfully, I have seen this discussion fall into two categories: A) Couples who say life has moved past cooking every night – and they enjoy the freedom of winging it, and B) Those who have not. So, what’s this all about? Control? Expectations?
I say it’s about communication. Let’s talk about a solution for Group B. Although this may sound a bit stilted at first, after a few runs, it will become part of your regular routine. Let’s say, on Sunday night (assuming it is the night before your work week), both spouses sit down and review their schedules together. You know, “I have a dinner this night, I have a meeting that night,” and each partner shares their known schedule. This way, there are no surprises, and quality dinners - and time spent together - will be meaningful, even special.
Another quick tip: Plan the type of food you’ll share on a specific night. For example, Italian on Wednesday night so both spouses can plan NOT to have Italian for lunch. It’s simple, it’s easy – and everybody wins. Bon appétit!
About Me
- Colette Young
- Colette Young started ExecuMate because she felt compelled to share her life journey of challenging opportunities and joyful successes as a top executive spouse. In 2005 Colette followed her husband Larry’s career to Dallas, Texas where he now serves as President and CEO of Dr Pepper Snapple Group. As the wife of a successful, top corporate executive for 20 years, Colette young knows the value of being a supportive spouse and all the challenges and opportunities that come with such a role. Colette received a B.S. and M.S. of Music Education from MO State University. Her own success in business and life includes a career as a professional musician, pianist, vocalist, and passion for golf (single-digit handicap). She combines them in her speaking and coaching to create a memorable and engaging experience. She draws on her broad experiences as an educator, musician, business owner, golfer and importantly, a helpmate to her husband’s career to present a unique message. Her message is one of balance in life and work—sharing a journey of unending opportunities, fearless decisions and win-by-choice outcomes through attitude, adaptability and accountability.